Special Note: Please take some time to read the following posts before reading this one, they are all posted immediately below this post: Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3.
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We all make choices out of many different reasons.
Some are rational. Some are not quite as rational.
Some are planned. Some are not quite as planned.
When it comes to love, far too many people would gladly tell you that they knew from the moment they met a person that they would marry him/her. A dear friend of mine who had sex with hundreds of women, and is known as a playboy suddenly found himself very monogamous, and very faithful to a wonderful wife he just married a couple months ago, simply because he knew from the first night that she will be his wife.
I saw Heather in person. I fell in love with Heather. It is still early, so I am still being a bit cautious. However, unlike any other women, I have felt that I could trust her completely. No, not like the other women I’ve loved — completely. Does it matter that she has a different person in her life too? Yes, it does matter to a great deal that we must work with each other. It is a difficult challenge, and not one that would work on many people.
But I do not follow any cultural norms of my society. I follow the beat to my own drummer, just as those nijab-wearing American women. I realize that life is not skewed like those “religious” people would like you to believe.
And most importantly of all, I will NOT hold the details back; especially with people I love and care about, even though it may not be something they want to hear.
Heed my words well: Do not lie on my behalf. I am open because I feel true with my situation at this time. If it does not work out, it would suck — but that is all part of life. Do not lie and cover the fact that we are all different. Work toward an openness, acceptance, and love for your fellow people, especially your own family.
To those that have accepted this — thank you. You are indeed friends I am blessed of knowing.
