Comments on: Being Deaf is Tiring in a Hearing World http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world A deep delicious journey, seeking an answer for no valid questions. Mon, 30 Mar 2009 19:28:20 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Kim http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world/comment-page-1#comment-2355 Kim Sun, 14 Dec 2008 13:10:16 +0000 http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world#comment-2355 I cried when I read this as it is was so accurate and I felt all my life it was my fault and my "job" to ensure that I understood everyone when in reality as one of you have mentioned we opt out of social occassions as simply too draining to lip-read all day and night. My eyes pulsate at end of the day (smile) and I like to close them now and then. With boyfriends it always comes apart when I misinterpret something and tried to explain and my speech decibel levels went up (so they say- must be true and embarrassing ... to me)and I get told I am "agressive" only at that point ...when all I am trying to do is be understood and have no idea if my voice rises when I panic and try to put my point across to a completely deaf unaware person. It hurts a lot as I am the most tranquil peace loving person and to be tagged when a little understanding would help is nightmare. I agree and feel that for a while now I say upfront communication has to be 50/50 and if not willing then lets leave it and most do LOL .. I have only ever foud blogs on deaf culture not on profoundly hearing imaired as well and because my loss is sensorei neural and all amplified speech is painful and distorted I chose not to use hearing aids as migraines followed so this is what works for me to a degree ... next lets hope we get deaf/HOH romance sites as it would be nice to find love too why not?? its not exclusively for hearing only ;) I cried when I read this as it is was so accurate and I felt all my life it was my fault and my “job” to ensure that I understood everyone when in reality as one of you have mentioned we opt out of social occassions as simply too draining to lip-read all day and night. My eyes pulsate at end of the day (smile) and I like to close them now and then. With boyfriends it always comes apart when I misinterpret something and tried to explain and my speech decibel levels went up (so they say- must be true and embarrassing … to me)and I get told I am “agressive” only at that point …when all I am trying to do is be understood and have no idea if my voice rises when I panic and try to put my point across to a completely deaf unaware person. It hurts a lot as I am the most tranquil peace loving person and to be tagged when a little understanding would help is nightmare. I agree and feel that for a while now I say upfront communication has to be 50/50 and if not willing then lets leave it and most do LOL ..
I have only ever foud blogs on deaf culture not on profoundly hearing imaired as well and because my loss is sensorei neural and all amplified speech is painful and distorted I chose not to use hearing aids as migraines followed so this is what works for me to a degree … next lets hope we get deaf/HOH romance sites as it would be nice to find love too why not?? its not exclusively for hearing only ;)

]]> By: Travis http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world/comment-page-1#comment-1956 Travis Sat, 26 Jul 2008 08:43:36 +0000 http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world#comment-1956 Teej, I just began talking to a deaf woman who I am beginning to like very much. I am hearing but without her telling me to do so, I have began learning sign. I know fingerspelling and a few basic ASL phrases. It makes things so much easier when we communicate. For example, we were chatting on AIM and Webcam at the same time, but the AIM froze. We were able to talk for at least 10 minutes using facial expression, lip reading, and fingerspelling until the instant messenger started working again. I urge anyone else that is hearing to learn at least the ABC's and basic phrases just like Teej said. It took me just an hour to learn the ABC's and a few days of practicing them to read it at full speed. A great read, thank you for letting some of the ill-informed people know about what it's like. Teej,

I just began talking to a deaf woman who I am beginning to like very much. I am hearing but without her telling me to do so, I have began learning sign. I know fingerspelling and a few basic ASL phrases. It makes things so much easier when we communicate. For example, we were chatting on AIM and Webcam at the same time, but the AIM froze. We were able to talk for at least 10 minutes using facial expression, lip reading, and fingerspelling until the instant messenger started working again.

I urge anyone else that is hearing to learn at least the ABC’s and basic phrases just like Teej said. It took me just an hour to learn the ABC’s and a few days of practicing them to read it at full speed.

A great read, thank you for letting some of the ill-informed people know about what it’s like.

]]> By: Kim http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world/comment-page-1#comment-788 Kim Tue, 27 Nov 2007 19:06:44 +0000 http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world#comment-788 This is probably the best description of how I hear-- ever! Thanks so much. I'm bookmarking you. :-) This is probably the best description of how I hear– ever! Thanks so much. I’m bookmarking you. :-)

]]> By: No name http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world/comment-page-1#comment-787 No name Tue, 27 Nov 2007 18:35:34 +0000 http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world#comment-787 No truer words have been spoken. If us Deafies have to make an effort to use our somewhat understandable voice box, the least those hearies can do is to fingerspell! That's what I'm trying to tell my family and my co-workers, to my failed avail. Sigh. No truer words have been spoken. If us Deafies have to make an effort to use our somewhat understandable voice box, the least those hearies can do is to fingerspell! That’s what I’m trying to tell my family and my co-workers, to my failed avail. Sigh.

]]> By: Katherine http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world/comment-page-1#comment-786 Katherine Tue, 27 Nov 2007 18:02:43 +0000 http://www.teej42.com/blog/2007/11/26/being-deaf-is-tiring-in-a-hearing-world#comment-786 p.s. I also wanted to say how much I love your header picture of your cat. :) p.s. I also wanted to say how much I love your header picture of your cat. :)

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